Tell us your bold boss story!:
Like many of us, I have a long and complex relationship to my body. While my rational side knows that the extra softening features, as my partner calls them, and cellulite has never actually stopped me from living my life, I do have to access that rational side on the regular because I am, like many of us are, in a continual state of comparison which is so damaging for our self esteem.
Remember the first time you become aware of your body not fitting into what other people think it should be or not conforming to an external expectation? Yeah, those memories are embedded deeply.
I got into boudoir and intimate portraits through my wedding clients. A few wanted to do some images before they put on their wedding dresses as a gift to their spouse. Bridal boudoir sessions are really fun and I still enjoy working photographing them. And eventually I came realize that the intimate portrait clients I treasured the most were doing it for themselves to celebrate their health; physical, emotional, spiritual. It was more of an internal milestone than an external one. When we are in a place of love and gratitude towards our bodies - that’s the ideal time to really see yourself.
So, what happens in a Modern Muse session? We create and hold a space that is affirming to who you are and we capture you there. I have worked hard to build an inclusive and sex positive boutique boudoir studio that is affirming. It’s not about transforming you. It’s about coaching you to remember and recognize your true self and ultimately revel in your own magic.
I know this is not for everyone, but can you imagine how good would it feel to look at images of yourself and LOVE them?
We're all about bold boss moments, tell us about one of yours!:
If I can help people see themselves with kindness and with love - the way other people see them - then I know that I have done my job well.
response from client after her reveal -
"I'm crying good tears. The entire experience was empowering in so many ways.
I'm at the point now where I have a profound understanding of myself yet I still have so much left to explore and understand. Coming out has been empowering for me and has allowed me to capture so much of a life I didn't fathom to be possible. I have lived with a shadow for most of my life and it wasn't until recently was I able to integrate it into my life and learn to accept and love it. I anticipated this being a journey of self-reflection and empowerment.
I cried over this image for a while last night and it's creating the same emotional response after seeing it again. I honestly never saw myself as any of that until yesterday. I'm still in shock that the person in those pictures is me. "
What advice or words of encouragement do you have for the Going Bold community?:
Tenacity. Kindness. Continual reflection. More tenacity!